Family Dynamics & a Reunion

My Grandmothers were the true Matriarchs of their respective families. My Mama & Daddy both hail from the same general area in the country where our Country House is. Both were large hardworking families. Mama's side of the family were sharecroppers (they didn't own the land that the family worked on but had free housing & all the food they needed) & Daddy's side owned a 200 acre farm where our House is located. I never knew either of my Grandfathers so my Grandmothers were the glue that held the family together.

Family reunions were started by my Grandmothers after their children married & had kids & many moved away. It was a way to get everyone together at least once a year. After my Grandmothers passed the siblings kept the tradition going for many years. As the older siblings have passed the grandchildren are not as good at keeping them going for many reasons.

The last reunion on my Dad's side was about 5 or 6 six years ago. They were always held on the weekend after New Years. The last one planned got cancelled due to a death in the family & no-one ever took it upon themselves to plan the next one, until this year.

The cousin that decided to hold it had good intentions but isn't the most organized person. Invitations went out late (really late) & not everyone was called to make sure they knew about it, in case they didn't receive or didn't check their PO box regularly. So, we were missing about 25 or 30 people that probably would have come had they known about it or had enough notice.

My Dad's family had 8 siblings that consisted of 3 older boys, 2 younger boys & 3 younger girls. My Grandmother & Grandfather separated when the 1st 3 boys were young. They got back together soon after & had the next 5. One of my older Uncles used to say there was the 1st family & the 2nd family. There were probably about 8 - 10 years difference between the 1st & 2nd sets (I'll have to ask my Dad). Regardless, all have passed but my Dad & 2 of his Sisters.

The reunion was held at my Aunt's house (wife of one of the 1st family). We had a fairly small get together on Saturday night with the big event being held on Sunday. My cousin got up early & cooked Boston Butts on the barbeque & then everyone else brought side dishes of all sorts.

(Cottonwood / Confederate Roses)

There was cornbread dressing, all sorts of beans/peas, corn casseroles, chicken & dumplings, chicken & rice, tater tot casserole, cornbread, rolls, etc. along with every sort of dessert imaginable. The star of the dessert is always my cousin's 14 layer chocolate cake. She always arrives at the last minute just after icing the still warm cake. The lucky ones hurry & finish their meal & grab a slice of the still warm chocolate cake, heaven on a plate!

Pic borrowed from Internet

In addition to "Old Settlers Baked Beans", I made a key lime lasagna from some fresh key lime juice that my Greg had squeezed last year. Those things are tiny & it took him forever. We froze the juice in ice cube trays & I was so glad I finally used it! This pic is from the blog that I "borrowed" the recipe from OMG Desserts

Mine actually looked very similar to this!

Here's a pic of mostly everyone that was there (some had left already).

Minus about 30 or 40 (some had left, some didn't come)

Some were a bit angry that they missed out. Hopefully, they will get over it for next year as we hope to continue in the upcoming years because we had a really good time!